What do you do when you wake up one morning, look at the love of your life and feel like you are kissing a frog? That you prince charming or your Cinderella has turned into a frog. That feeling you felt at the beginning of the relationship has changed and you are not sure if you want to stay in the relationship. You start questioning is this it? Is this what my life is going to be like from now until eternity?
Relationships change and our feelings change as well. It is worth thinking back at what point did your emotions change and the relationship become a chore. We start questioning relationships when our needs are not being met. Sometimes we lose ourselves and our identities in the relationship and we become unsatisfied with not just our relationships but with the lives we live.
Have you taken on a role in the relationship? Have you become “just” the mother, the wife, the partner… have you lost that part of you that crave intimacy? Have you lost YOU?
Does your relationship feel in balance? Is this a give and take relationship? Or are you giving all the time without getting anything back?
Are your emotional needs being met? Does your partner know what you are feeling, what upsets you and what makes you happy? Or has your communication faded away with your romance?
Are you and your partner reading from the same page…. Does your partner know what it means when you speak of love? Romance and fulfilment?
Does your partner know what your needs are? Sometimes we forget to voice what we need and these things get lost in the relationship.
It does sometimes happen that we fall in this trap of speaking to each other but not really hearing what our partners are saying or actually listen to what is being said.
So much of what has been mentioned above can be changed and addressed. We can only change what we know needs changing. Sometimes we just need to take a step back and find ourselves and our voice in a relationship for things to change and for us to become fulfilled and happy in our relationships.
There is always hope. When we address the things that need changing it might just be possible that your frog will turn into your prince charming or your Cinderella all over again!
If you feel you are struggling with your relationship and you need some additional support, please contact us at Your counselling service at: magna@yourcounsellingservice.co.uk or call 07505029485. We are here to listen and help in whatever way we can.